“…But maybe more than anything Erin, you just don’t need one more thing on your plate right now with the big futurama in mind. You’ve done a lot of travelling this year and it takes a lot of work to process through all those things.  Now you’re about to embark on some new beginnings…but to be stressed about a trip in the meantime seems almost distracting, am i right?  Perhaps you should investigate that more than the breaking-the-trust/scary-renegade-Pakistani issues….”